An Adult Life

“A man among children will long be a child.  A child among men will soon be a man.” – Thomas Fuller, 1732

Ask almost any teacher, and they’ll tell you how they often crave adult conversations at the end of the day.  As rewarding as our work is, there’s something odd about spending the entire day among a younger generation of non-peers.  I find so much joy in my work with teens, but even in my most fulfilling, exciting workdays, I need to talk to an adult afterwards.  That may simply mean stopping by a coworker’s classroom to swap stories.  It may mean a dinner out to vent frustrations away from the workplace.  Maybe it’s a phone call to a close friend or my sister on my drive home.  Maybe it’s a Saturday afternoon spent wandering around a local sight with my husband.  I’ve clung dearly to my own adult world even as I’ve thrown myself headlong into a passion for helping teens become adults.

As I look around, I realize I’ve been blessed with an amazing peer group.  My teacher friends are some of the best teachers you’ll ever meet – experts in their content areas, dedicated to their craft, and invested in their care for their students.  We teach at different schools with different specific interests, but that doesn’t matter.  We’re good, and I’m blessed to be among their number.   Continue reading

Adulthood Defined

Holy 24 hours, Batman!  Since my post yesterday, I’ve received three different phone calls and multiple e-mails and facebook responses, in addition to the comments posted here.  I ask you all to bear with me, as this whole “blogging about a potentially controversial issue” thing is new to me, and definitely a learning process!  The responses to my last post have run a wide range from full support to complete disagreement, and everything in between.  It’s interesting see all the different perspectives that different people bring to this topic from their own life experiences.  I sincerely appreciate all the interest people have taken in what I have to say.

I think I should have been more careful about what I’m not saying, though.  I’m not saying that to be considered an adult, all the pieces of your life must fall completely into place by age (fill in the blank).  I took longer than four years to graduate college.  I’ve worked seven jobs in three states in the last four years, and my husband and I are far from being settled.  We both are experiencing career shifts that require spending time in grad school, and he’s much further along in that process than I am!  I have dear friends that are single and still live with their parents for very valid reasons, and I know that they are responsible adults.  Adulthood has become less of a list of outside requirements and has more to do the individual’s maturity and sense of responsibility. Continue reading